Emotional Logic

That emotional logic exists isn't too controversial, right?  I mean, if you've ever had a fight with, well, just about anybody, and that fight has been remotely personal--and by definition, fights are personal, right?--then you've discovered the fact that people operate under different emotional understandings/auspices, and that they interpret the data of the world around them through personalized filters.  Whether those filters are genetic or environmental is a side issue (though a real one, for they dictate to what degree we should perhaps try to re-train someone/ourselves, and whether we think that type of thing is possible, though I suppose even genetically determined traits can be flexible, right?),--- that we have real, sort of emotional structures of understanding, is beyond argument.  We might wish we didn't, but we do.  Even if the structures are couched in terms of logic, detachment, and clinical isolation, they exist, in that, we adhere to them irrationally.  That is, we adhere to them for reasons that are idiosyncratic, that cannot necessarily be explained to others through objective means.  

That is, of course, why fights occur.  We are emotional bubbles and highly interdependent, as well, so how we reveal our emotional foundations is a big deal for our associations, whether we like it or not.  And more often than not we reveal ourselves through reactions to other people's reactions, and when those other people are tied to us in more fundamental ways, well, we fight, because we can't leave.

There are two oddities here.  One, when we explain ourselves, we automatically add in more support to our side and strengthen our arguments implicitly. 

Two, a lot of fights don't exist because we simply need to explain our side fully, but because our emotional reaction to something (or someone else's emotional reaction to something), made them/us feel bad.  And often the fight is not about clarity of understanding, but the process we use to re-balance our notions of dis-balance.  Of purity, if you will.  Everyone has reasons that make sense to them, individually.